I’ve had a lot of fashion moments, but I’d have to say that my wedding is definitely on top. My second anniversary is coming up. In fact, it’s about one week away – August 21. The dress, which was a lace Oscar de la Renta, was the first dress I tried on. Like most brides, I didn’t make the purchase right away, of course, and tried on several more (including several Vera Wangs) before settling back with the Oscar. It was very difficult for me to find my dress. Back in 2009 when I began my search, there were barely any dresses that had shoulder straps. In fact, I tried on an average of three dresses at quite a few salons due to the lack of selection. Except for a few, most dresses were too overwhelming for my small frame, even with pins. And most were not outdoor ceremony friendly – my wedding was at a yacht club in Toronto. And I kept on going back to this dress each time I tried on another. I think there was only one other dress that I truly loved – and that one was kind of 1920s night gown-y that made me look more like a rebellious 1920s debutante than a bride.
This dress was everything I wanted. It had the Old Hollywood premiere look, the shoulders were covered AND it was outdoor friendly without looking like a destination wedding kind of dress. I’m all for simplicity and didn’t even wear a lot of jewellery. In fact, I opted out of several Chinese traditions because I didn’t want all that pomp and circumstance and only kept the must-dos – the tea ceremony, table toasting and dress changes (though I didn’t have a kwa (wedding outfit worn by southern Chinese brides) – only the vintage pink dress below, which my mom wore at her wedding back in the 70s). On my husband’s side, we had the breaking of the glass, the challah blessing right before dinner and of course, the hora.
Looking back, I would not have traded any other dress for what I wore. I just knew it was THE ONE when I tried it on for the first time. For those of you who are married, how long did it take before you said yes to your dress? Did you opt for something bling-y or simple?
Photos by: Vito Amati